F A M I L Y - a whole new meaning (shared by a working pal)

F A M I L Y

I ran into a stranger as he passed by, 'Oh excuse me please' was my reply.

He said, 'Please excuse me too; I wasn't watching for you.'

We were very polite, this stranger and I. We went on our way and we said goodbye.

But at home a different story is told,

How we treat our loved ones, young and old..

Later that day, cooking the evening meal,

My son stood beside me very still.

When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.

'Move out of the way,' I said with a frown...


He walked away, his little heart broken.

I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.


While I lay awake in bed, God's still small voice came to me and said,


'While dealing with a stranger, common courtesy you use, but the family you love, you seem to abuse.


Go and look on the kitchen floor,

You'll find some flowers there by the door.


Those are the flowers he brought for you.

He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.


He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,

you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes.'


By this time, I felt very small, And now my tears began to fall.

I quietly went and knelt by his bed; 'Wake up, little one, wake up,' I said...

'Are these the flowers you picked for me?' He smiled, 'I found 'em, out by the tree.

I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.

I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue.'

I said, 'Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today; I shouldn't have yelled at you that way.'

He said, 'Oh, Mom, that's okay.

I love you anyway.'

I said, 'Son, I love you too, and I do like the flowers, especially the blue....


FAMILY

Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days.

But the family we left behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.

And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than into our own family, an unwise investment indeed, don't you think?

So what is behind the story?

Do you know what the word FAMILY means?

FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU

不要小看我

Yeah. thats what i post in my messgage. perhaps i should post that on my FB haha...

erratic is what i describe myself

revamping and being entask to clean up is not an easy task. but there is always the 敢敢来 attitude that push me on. I can do it (like siang always say)

New Friend

Today i chat with a few friends (plus my brother and my sil).

There is one new friend. can i say she is new? i think nope. I have known her for a while (all this while)?

Chatting with her. She shared with me her DS progress and I told her about what i placed in my blog. A gentle lady as she is.

There are things i should learn, there are phrases in life that others been through and others is going through. A reflection of it makes me a little worm ? perhaps not. perhaps it does? i am not sure. Ultimately, i know that i am me.

I am perhaps really exhausted and I should go and take a break. Just some more (a little bit) time to go.

AYG vis I am tired

I am tired. My hubby is busy with AYG as most would know its officially start on 29 June 09. Right in our heartland

Siang is not well (down with croup - again!). I hope (i pray very hard) what the A&E doctor say won't come true (ie siang would have to do a scope again...).

Hope the neo nat would be able to give some good advise next week.

For quite a while

For quite a while i did not post in my blog

Have i stop pondering or have i froze in the way the earth is spinning every sec and mins.

No to all of the above.

Due for review of my own thoughts and my act

Time has seem to come to a still (thou its not true)

I received a full month cake today (for my working pal 2nd boy 1 mth celebration)

Another baby has just arrived on 12 June 09 (bb gal)

What may come will come, which have to go will be gone

Happiness is sought by all those who craved for them. precious moments are caught when we are totally unaware (gone in a sec)

i need to work and learn to let go (YES)

Time now is Sin Hour 1614. belief and have faith.

Meet up with my Ex-classmates

:) Dorinda is back in town and we decide to meet up at Central and headed to Billy Bombers for dinner

Chit chat during dinner was casual and everyone commented that wilson seem to have slim down quite a fair bit.

I realised that all of us have moved on with life with our own strides. Its nice to know we are still in contact (last gathering was in dec 08)

Here is the group pic :). We have Karen, me, Edmund, (opposite) Dorinda, Wilson and Mary. Jessica and Jasmine could not join us

Wish

Thats the title i chosen to reflect my thoughts. I wish...

A lot of stuff hence this post will end as it is so :> nonetheless, all the good frens who is reading my posts. I will work hard to make my dream come true. Slowly gradually.

Ignorance is a blessing

Thats what i quote in FB today.

ok, just pretend to be a bit dumb and perhaps often one can escape from reality? thats my own interruption of "ignorance is a blessing"

I had a few person whom i chat daily (other than my hubby, son and maid hehe). Here is the list (its just a brief one) :-

Darius mum
JJJ mum
Sophie mum
JT - who sit up high above me at 4th level
D&E mum
Zach & Bernard mum

and...cindy. yeah.

Kath mum
Rachelle mum
Yan
kkf

Dorinda
Jessica

oh yeah, my bro and sisters (we keep in touch at work too)

corresponding thru various ways, it keep me in breathable life style :p

Comparison

I hate this word most (among others that i dislike).

Often we are not satisfy by what we were given by fairness from heaven.

Today i am on medical leave. not feeling well. the heat is getting up to me.

can all be at peace and like what siang recently been telling me "mama don't be angry". he is really sweet.

A Good Deed (?)

I did a good deed. i consider myself done a good deed :p

This morning i went off to work from my mum house. Just as i was about to bypass the mailbox area, suddenly i notice a bunch of keys laying at the mailbox area (with no one in sight)

I ponder for quite a while (standing there) looking around. 5 Mins pass and yet no one came. I do not feel comfortable leaving the keys there (seem like there is one car key attached too) so i toke the bunch of keys (with one prudential key tag) and placed it into the lift lobby town coucil office feedback box haha :p.

Wanted to walk to the nearest police station by its a distance walk... so i thought town council office would be the best next choice :p

Hope everything that is lost would be found.

Panda

Mum hand is feeling some form of pain. She went to see TCM doctor last night.

Feel ache for her. must be really quite painful as she is not one to complain of pain (her tolerance level quite high).

Hope Siang behaved well with the help of the maid.

Sometime i get really frustrated in pushing the automatic key on the maid. makes all my hair stand UP like a gaze wire. Experiences tell me, getting worked up is of no essential value to getting things done. See, here i am still rattling about the maid sigh :(

OK, time for some form of brain racking on making the best out of a stuck situation. Think hard...with some try and luck, things should go smoothly.

New Day

Today papa yeo officially start to go and serve the nations for 2 weeks.

My task? well, making sure siang is still well taken care (with my mum super help).

ok. some form of plannings to do. lots of rushing here and there...

but. as what JJJ mum always say, all will turn out well.

17 Years

This evening after work i went to city hall to meet up with my ex-secondary school classmates. There was only 6 of us (including me) that could gather this time. The rest are all busy...

Today i met, Joanna Chong, Beng Guan, Samuel (rong hao), Lisa and Cindy (how to missed her out :p)

We had dinner at a japanese restaurant and chilled out.

As we chat, it was just like yesterday that we attended class together. Very pity we did not take a group pic but i self composed (copy from their FB pic :p without their consenses haha) a group pic.. one person pic is missing, that's lisa. I shall try to find a copy of her most recent pic hehe



I am looking forward to the next gathering :) Shall make sure to take a group pic

My Head

I lost my heart and brain sometime back.

Today (i think can say now). i found it back. suddenly i realised, i know what was the missing puzzle that caused me to lost my head (ie brain).

well to mention. i must say thank you to someone who brought my brain back to me. isn't it nice to have frens who can talk and pour out my soul (despite she knows i am just a headless housefly swarming around a pool of stuff that makes not much sense??).

I hope.. i won't disappoint this fren. I hope ... i will lead and make firm decision. (shaking my head while i type this - as if to make myself sit up and wake up).

NO scare no scare. forward March!

Mee Suan and tons of pork floss

Cannot belive it. My domestic helper actually did not tell me that maggel mee left only 1 single packet.

After siang fall asleep (afternn nap), i wanted to go and cook maggel mee for lunch. To my horror, there's only one packet left!

What to do, i just have to cook kosong mee suan and pour tons of pork floss. Ok la, the taste not that bad. Guess later have to bring siang down to stock up maggel mee

.

I refuse

I am not a piece of wood and I refuse to be ruled by hammer and a nail. yes that i refuse

Sitting here; i just finish a piece of carrot cake. i shared with darius mummy that this is how much carbo that i need (perhaps to run the extra mile for today)

Starting work this morning at 7am plus, i am totally flat out by now.

Really looking forward to the 3 days holiday

9 ways to get happy in the next 30 minutes

Healthy LivingSunday, April 26, 2009

9 ways to get happy in the next 30 minutes

by Real Simple Magazine, on Fri Apr 10, 2009 7:47am PDT 252

In the next half hour, tackle as many of the following suggestions as possible. Not only will these tasks themselves increase your happiness, but the mere fact that you've achieved some concrete goals will boost your mood.


Jay Gosney
1. Raise your activity level to pump up your energy. If you're on the phone, stand up and pace. Walk to a coworker's office instead of sending an e-mail. Put more energy into your voice. Take a brisk 10-minute walk. Even better...

2. Take a walk outside. Research suggests that light stimulates brain chemicals that improve mood. For an extra boost, get your sunlight first thing in the morning.
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3. Reach out. Send an e-mail to a friend you haven't seen in a while, or reach out to someone new. Having close bonds with other people is one of the most important keys to happiness. When you act in a friendly way, not only will others feel more friendly toward you, but you'll also strengthen your feelings of friendliness for other people.

4. Rid yourself of a nagging task. Deal with that insurance problem, purchase something you need, or make that long-postponed appointment with the dentist. Crossing an irksome chore off your to-do list will give you a rush of elation.

5. Create a more serene environment. Outer order contributes to inner peace, so spend some time organizing bills and tackling the piles in the kitchen. A large stack of little tasks can feel overwhelming, but often just a few minutes of work can make a sizable dent. Set the timer for 10 minutes and see what you can do. In that time, take a quick look around the house and see how to get organized using everyday items.

6. Do a good deed. Introduce two people by e-mail, take a minute to pass along useful information, or deliver some gratifying praise. In fact, you can also...

7. Save someone's life. Sign up to be an organ donor, and remember to tell your family about your decision. Do good, feel good―it really works!

8. Act happy. Fake it 'til you feel it. Research shows that even an artificially induced smile boosts your mood. And if you're smiling, other people will perceive you as being friendlier and more approachable. There's no need to walk around in a constant state of worry. After all, what's the worst that can happen if you bounce a check or leave wet clothes in the dryer?

9. Learn something new. Think of a subject that you wish you knew more about and spend 15 minutes on the Internet reading about it, or go to a bookstore and buy a book about it. But be honest! Pick a topic that really interests you, not something you think you "should" or "need to" learn about.

Keep reading:

Get happy on the cheap.

How to improve (almost) everything in your life, from your dinner order to your career.

MY sil is expecting a twins (identical)

I read from my dearest brother blog. Utra scan has confirmed seeing the bird :) haha.

Its a identical twins they are expecting. both boys :)

Disappointment

I had planned for some special activities this weekend. gotten call it off

The sky looks dark now. Just have to be contended to stay around our residential area with siang.

Hope at least it don't rain..

I am on leave (21 to 23 april)

Hehe its my turn to take care of siang

I hope i won't drive my domestic helper crazy because i can be a very petty woman at times.

Thinking later bring siang go take bus go Jurong East :)

Ah Ma on Holiday

They succeed! Time now is 2.15pm. I just rang home.

Papa told me that Siang just fall asleep (after drink some milk - drink milk?... wow i thought that was very well done!) at 1.45pm - his usual napping hour.

To many, they may felt that what is there so great about giving milk and bringing a toddler to afternoon nap? Well, i think its a great achievement and my heart is full of smile.

Sitting in office now, I feel deeply that Siang has a great papa.

I like this

Toke this picture while we were at Vivo City this morning. Personally, i think this is really an in-depth creation.

Ah Ma on holiday

Ah ma is on holiday for a week+ from today.

Today hubby toke leave and take care of siang.

10am plus - siang not drinking milk and refuse to let the auntie give him milk too

2pm plus - not yet take his afternn nap. On the phone with me a while, say refuse to nap. refuse milk. refuse to go and rest for a while.

4pm +(just)- Hubby say siang already eat 2 times of mee suan (don't want milk) and 2 times of porridge. I spoke to our domestic helper to ascertain that she had cooked the mee suan correctly.

Poor papa. he never eat anything much for the whole day. I think he must be really tired.

They have really tried their best. At least in turn of siang refuse to drink milk, concern that he may be hungry. Papa decide to cook mee suan for him (small snack does help in filling up toddler tummy - great decision)

I am gg off on the dot today. shall go back and give siang dinner and let both of them take a break.

Getting Early

I like to come into office early. Catch sun rise; breath fresh air? no no and also it does not mean i don't love to laze in my bed for a little while longer.

I love my job (so much?) hehe erh... that is determine by whether i can find time to laze around while on my hot seat haha (how honest can i be)

In my little work corner, i know exactly where are my stuff. this creates confident in me. Phone ring, i am cool. i answer it without casting another doubt

am i in my comfort zone? is this sign that i am in my mid year career crisis? it depends (i think).

why am i blogging all this? my frens, is just a thought that flow by.

maybe cindy is correct. i should try to re-organise my work desk a bit.

haha I know! maybe i should mess it up (yahoo!) why do one have to live in a so well organised life? i would like myself to be ever ready for unexpected happenings but still i won't want too much huha-la to come into my life. how contradicting can i be...haiz (shake my head)

all i want is safe & peace for my family, living in contentment to my expectations.

life - give me my smile.

Headache

I been having lots of episode of headache lately. Today I brought siang to see doctor (he is down with flu - cough and phelgm). I toke this chance and told the doctor about my on-going headache. She diagnose me as having tension headache.

She gave me some relaxation pill. It helps :)

Think i must learn to cope with stress.

First Crocs Shoes

I GOT the shoes!. sophie mum super duper nice. she pass it to me early this morning. but... opps! i cannot fit. too loose. What to do..have to let good things go (before another better one come along haha).

Shall let Siang Jiu mu try. hope she can fit

Its a very nice pair of shoes. S$40 hehe (plus shipping and all)

I receive a rainbow today

I was chatting with a old (long time) fren.

Her name is Cindy. We been friends since secondary times. counting todate. we known each other for 17 years! thats a l-o-n-g time.

She know it rain in my soul yesterday.

Today, back at work, i told her i wish i can see a rainbow (siang is so amaze that sky actually can have magic colours! - siang seen a rainbow once and he commented that "colours in the sky" and i told him, its a rainbow).

My pal, thanks for the e-virtual rainbow. i record this as "i got a rainbow today"

Calvin Leow

Received a text this morning from my good old friend, huilian of her son arrival :).

So happy for her.

Shall be visiting her later with cindy. Hope to post some pic hehe

Life - light as dust

Today i read in a special post forum that one mummy lost a baby due to birth complications. Makes me even more firm in making the best for siang as heaven has given him (a tiny warrior at birth) a fair chance to fight and become what he may be able to be.

A tiny chance is always better than none. Grab it when it come. Appreciate it and value it.

Last night my hubby was not able to send us home (as he got company dinner to attend - an important function). Hence I, Siang and our domestic helper toke a cab home.

That cabbie makes me fume!... he purposely mumble very softly about the route he intend to take (when we board the cab). siang was making noise and i did not hear clearly. then he start the vehicle. halfway through, i realised he is not taking the road that my hubby always take (from my mama house to where we live)!!! so i query and he proclaimed that he did mention when we board the cab

As i was with siang and the domestic helper i did not want to create a scene. Hence i start to try to recognise the landmarks outside (he was taking a route that i was not at all familiar - i am a direction idiot, everyone who knows me know that) and i start to pausse and ask the cabbie which road is he using... he give the same flat answer "Just now when you board the cab, i already said!!", "anyway, singapore how you go, you will still end up at the destination"..... (*&*^W*&^&W^&W%&^%*^#@&#(**#

I kept quiet and just continue to figure out which route he is taking (but ... no use because i am really unable to).

My domestic helper seem to detect something is not right in my tone to the cabbie. hence she toke over siang and let him sit with her.

Well....we got home. total cab fee was $20.40!. i don't remember it cost that much (there was another time we toke a cab home from my mama house)

anyway, most important is we reach home safe and sound.

Thinking back. really appreciate my hubby for driving to and fro my mama house (5 days a week). thats a tough task...

First Crocs shoe

My good pal (aka working colleague) - sophie's mum spot a crocs US sale and i decide to get for myself a pair of prima - sea foam colour (size W6) at US$19.90 (before 50%was US$24.99) :p. Plus shipping etc, we would expect this pair to cost me approximately S$30 or S$35 :p

Expected delivery date? in 2 weeks time??



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Fire - Fire warden

Wow~ i am going to put on the fire man red hat hehe. my work place will soon be holding a fire drill (aka everyone has to assemble at a given time allowance :p). I have been nominated as the fire warden

wonder would i have to hold a loud speaker or blow the whiser :p hehe

Study, upgrading

I start to notice that recently a lot of my friends are going back to school. Andy was studying some short courses recently too.

D&E's mummy is also reading books. Bernard mum is attending courses (recent one is on teaching kids on phonics)

Makes me ponder. I should start on some simple reading.

I am reading this book (bought by Andy sometime back) known as Inspiration from Confucius - Choice Quotations from the Analects - (english version).

Guide to Reading - Inspiration from Confucius contains best selections of 160 excerpts, based on these 10 concepts :-

1. Benevolence/Humanity
2. Justice
3. Propriety/Rites
4. Knowing
5. Trust
6. Loyalty
7. Filial Piety
8. Correctness, Propriety, Legality or Rectifying
9. Study
10. Action and Practice or Conduct

Why i chose this book. Well, hoping to have some reflections of my actions, words and belief in this world. Also, hope to be able to be inspiration for life, work, family, myself (my soul). living in reality and gaining insight.

Twins in my family

Today my dearest brother announced on his blog on the pregnancy of my sil. they are expecting a twins (edd sept 09).

First time i heard abt the pregnancy was during CNY. my cutest sil (she is one lovely lady really) has since step into her 1st trimester :)i feel so happy & proud of them.

Twins. Identical somemore.

Its on this that my Mama shared that there is twins history in my family. My father sisters was twins (identical). then my Sil shared that her father also has twins brother (identical?)! wow...

I always belive children is a gift by the heaven/ancestor. That's what my mama always say

Little brother, learn to be a good papa along the path. its a enjoyment and could be a very different kind of life experiment thru the wife experiencing morning sickness and food craving but i am sure you can DO IT. You have us (all the 4 sisters) to support you. and yeah... must start ai de jiao yu liao. start when the twins are still in the womb. its a mircale of life that we must belive :)

Golden Memories

I was on Face book with a friend and suddenly i notice she tag me a picture! worr... toke a close look and i realised she actually toke the patience to scan in some picture that we toke quite a number of years back. We had a short trip to genting. that was the young and happy time :)

3 of us boldly booked the tour package and off we went to genting. looking back at the pic, i felt a bit sad that we have since lost contact with one of the lady...i wonder how is she doing and where is she now...

See me (from left to right) with long and curly hair, the middle is Cindy and the last lady is gui ping whom we have not been contacting since I got married (my wedding date was Guiping birthday)...

Funny Friday

Woke up this morning late and decide to catch a cab to work. but to my horrific, i actually do not have my wallet with me. never mind (there is always a way out in life), very relaxing in the cab, i start to use my most treasured HP and rang one of my working pals and she paid off my taxi fare for me when i reach office. well, see, i manage to survive the ordeal keke.

En En mum text me. told me en en is attending first day playgroup today :) wow! exciting ler. kids going to school. errhhhmm when is siang turn? soon haha.

Today will be a busy day for me and with weekend coming. i am feeling blur and confuse today. is it those TGIF feeling? this afternoon i have a game & a big walk coming up. tired tired tired...

On Course and...met a fren's fren

Today i went for my first external course (since my years here). WOW! broke the 0 training course egg. haha!!

Anyway, the course content is not much of excitment :p but yes its a very interesting course.

Conducted by : LCI Executive Seminars - Inspiring Business Excellence.

Topic : Emotional Intelligence (EQ) in Challenging Times - How to Bring out the Best in Yourself and Others

Venue : M Hotel

Ok, enough of talking about the course haha. I met SOMEONE! wow the world is so small. she is luana. her 2nd gal is a premmie too (she is a fren of Bernard's mum - who i often e-chat with).

Actually, i find her name is so familar (at the start of the course). Hence being a kaypo me, i start to chat with her, just to realise that indeed she is the lady bernard's mum mentions before :)

here is the picture (as promised to bernard's mum). see the pretty lady in red? that is me..anyway, luana is just in front of me haha!

Sparrow Soaring

Here is a sight i been trying so hard to capture ;) there was once a old saying : A place that sparrow built their nest is the place that is a comfortable living zone

Haywire day

Often we heard people say "its a do or smack it" situation

Well today i am facing it. DO it or Face it (perhaps)?

time now is 1336 hours. tick tock tick tock.

OK i have decide. i shall do it.

fingers crossed. forgot to wear my fav green colour today. nevermind. i got my jade buffalo to protect me :p

denote : i should have brought siang newly purchased (from Papa Yeo) badminton toy racket and smack the 'housefly' which is irritating me *wick wick wick grin*

OX Year - First day at work

I came in real early this morning. Well its work as usual

On this first day of work, the man whom i report to gave me a mini jade water buffalo :) hope it ward off all bad things from me at work and of course keep my family safe

Got this pic from the web :p will try to load the actual pix hehe

新年祝福! - My OX Year Resolution

Today my sister send me a cute 新年祝福!

I really think i shall practise as below from 26 Jan 09 onwards. Cheers

早上起床照鏡子時記得跟自己打招呼


每天保持 高昂的心情


留點時間給自己不要太匆忙


對看不慣的事 要有隱忍心態


生氣時, 要學會克制怒火








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對自己的家人也要說聲謝謝

Ah Yat @ Turf City

Went for a reunion lunch date with 2 of my closed working pal at Ah Yat @ Turf city hehe.

Nothing much to add as descriptions except these 3 pic (which would say it all)

Good food + good friends - that is leading a meaningful life :)

CNY Clothings

Finally after work we dash down to IMM, Jurong and i bought 3 new top for CNY

Think thats about it haha. but it will be good if i can get a new pants too but then, guess its too last min and rush.

Water, Soil - cycle of life

Today i came to work and realised that the newly purchased pot of plant that i bought from IKEA wither :( what a shock i had...because it was still doing well yesterday mah

Kanjong spider la. so i quickly feed my plant with water. and miracle happen, the plant came alive! horray

so. i had a-after thought. plant need water & attention as human needs care/love and food to thrive and survive. its the basic of life cycle.

I have another pot of african violet (handed over to me by a ex-working pal). its been with me for quite a while. my this good pal told me its suppose to produce pretty purple flower but todate there is no sign of it flowering :p. but i shall continue to shower it with water and lighting from the bulb ;) and oh since CNY is coming, some kind soul give me a stick of 'tao hua' so i put it with the africa violet pot

Symbol is kai hua jie guo; hua kai fu gui :) and i got two artificial mandarin orange place in front of the 2 pot of plants hehe. Hope for a smooth sailing OX Year

New Hair Cut

Finally i went to cut short my hair while siang was taking his afternoon nap :)

OX year. I am more or less ready hehe

Load off my mind

Finally i found a place to bring all my friendZ for lunch. its a load off my otherwise going gong gong brain/mind.

:)

Year 2009

Well, its a brand new year.

Started the year with a recovering cold.

Today being the first day of work in the New Year, its a mad rush, with everyone chasing everyone after the long long break. Time now is 1427hours (after lunch). feel more at ease with most of the urgent work done.

To Year 2009, i hope for health & happiness and of course, hope all wishes come true.

Work hard and may guardian angels stay with me and my family.